Fellatio - Deep Throating
‘Deep Throat’, the controversial though enormously successful sex movie, was first released in 1972. An entire flick dedicated to the 'subterranean' blow job (BJ), it brought sex out of the closet and forever changed the way people viewed this form of fellatio. So what exactly is a ‘deep throat blow job’, and more importantly, could it be easier to perform than it looks?
A blow job with depth
In order to perform this type of oral sex, a fellator engulfs an erect penis in their mouth past the epiglottis (the piece of tissue that hangs at the entrance of the throat). The phallus is taken as far down as possible and, assuming it is long enough, to the point of partially swallowing it. If the fellator is able, their lips will be able to touch the base of the man's penis and his testicles.
Gurgling and slurping sounds usually go with the territory - and can be a major turn on for a man who receives this type of BJ. Coughing and gagging sounds are also fairly common, arousing both for the auditory aspect and because the throat and mouth tighten even harder around the shaft. These elements make the owner of the penis feel like it's so big that their partner just can't fit them all the way in – and so deep throat strokes a man's ego as well as his manhood!
It's not as easy as it looks
A deep throat blow job involves a great deal of skill. The fellator must be cognizant about taking inward breaths between taking the male member deep into their mouth. This doesn't mean that breathing isn't possible during a deep throat BJ, merely that it requires the fellator to flatten and stick out their tongue as far as possible.
Some fellators, if not most, prefer not to choke on their man's phallus - so it's important to manage one's natural instinct to spit out the offending member, rather than just relaxing their mouth/throat even more. The giver must also control their tongue and throat so as not to succumb to their gag reflex.
The gag reflex
People have different sensitivities to the gag reflex - an involuntary contraction that occurs at the back of the throat. The purpose of this pharyngeal reflex is to prevent accidental choking, and it can be triggered by objects pressing against the soft palate (the back of the roof of the mouth), as well as by large objects being pressed into the back of the mouth.
The average length of an erect penis, at five or so inches or so, is longer than the depth of the average mouth. It's therefore no surprise that giving this form of fellatio poses a serious problem for someone with a natural gag reflex. Fortunately, there are few ways to work around it. First and foremost, be patient; suppressing one's gag reflex takes time and practice.
How to deep throat WITHOUT gagging
As with many other sexual acts, positioning is everything, but size sure makes a difference. Also, when it comes to deep-throating, this is one case where bigger isn't always better. However, while it is easier to execute certain sexual acts with a man whose penis is smaller, it is possible to do so successfully if you follow some of these helpful hints.
Practice Makes Perfect
Here are a couple of tips that'll pave your way to deep throat success. If you want to practice on something before you try it on your man, use a dildo that's flexible, almost to the point of being floppy. Not all penises are that bendy, but using one such as this is a great way to ease your way into deep-throating and gain more confidence.
The farther out you can stick your tongue, the less of a chance there is to gag. Doing so suppresses the gag reflex, makes more room for the penis, and helps you breathe better during a deep throat session.
When you get the sensation that you're about to gag, the best thing to do is not panic. Not only will this initiate tension in the mouth and throat, it will make it more difficult to overcome the gag reflex. Simply breathe out softly and gently ease off his penis. Give yourself a little break by integrating other sexual acts.
What to do if you're a gagger
A short term solution is to use a numbing throat spray, which some authorities on oral sex swear by. These are generally available in a variety of flavors. Another quick fix is to use a water based lubricant while giving head. Though it's generally known for its benefits in the vaginal and anal sex department, an edible lubricant can be effective in aiding deep throating; the slippery stuff can actually decrease gag reflex.
A known long term strategy to desensitize one's gag reflex is by employing the use of a toothbrush. Try brushing your tongue as far back as you can possibly reach, without getting all choked up, and maintain the brushing motion for a few minutes. Repeat this process daily, and move the brush back a little further into the mouth every day.
Final thoughts
Deep-throating is just one of a multitude of acts that can be performed during sex. It takes practice and patience to master this 'down' reaching deed, but once you get the hang of it, your fellatio finesse goes way, way up!
